What I Really Want for Christmas is to Have Things My Way. And Not Have to Share.

The seasons of peace, love and generosity are often filled with conflict, bitterness and selfishness (and yes, even greed). This is particularly evident in many families who have been through divorce and now have to adapt to dividing the holidays between two (or more) extended families. It all begins with intense longing to have a wonderful, joyful family experience. One that may help alleviate some of the pain of the divorce or of past childhood losses. Each parent (and grandparent) has their own personal image of how this should look and feel. And traditions are a deep part of these wishes. But the reality of two families means they have to figure out when the children will be with which parent on what days. And that reality re-ignites the sadness and guilt about the their children having to experience divorce.

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“It’s Not Just About Food”

Eating or not eating in reaction to stress creates health and weight problems and doesn’t solve the emotional, behavioral and relationship problems underlying your eating patterns. It’s actually not as complicated as it sounds to start changing how you eat and to get off the “on a diet-off the diet” pattern.

  • Do you eat out of boredom? Or tension?
  • When you are not hungry?
  • Do you frequently go on diets to lose weight, then regain the weight?
  • Feel self-conscious about your body?
  • Find yourself constantly thinking about food and weight?
  • Skip meals and under eat because you are afraid you will gain weight?
  • Do you sometimes eat compulsively (especially junk foods), then later berate yourself?

Podcast: Stepfamily Holidays

From the Stay Happily Married web site:

No matter how many “Happy Holidays” wishes you receive, the season can be just as stressful as it is enjoyable, and that stress can be even greater if you’re part of a blended family. Does shuffling the kids from one home to another feel too disruptive? Does it seem impossible to meet everyone’s vision of that perfect Christmas morning?

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Podcast: Newly Blended Stepfamilies

From the Stay Happily Married web site:

If you’re a part of a blended family, you know how complicated things can be, especially when you’re starting out. Are you having trouble relating to your new stepchildren? Do you just not feel as much like a family as you expected? Barbara Keyworth joins us to discuss the things that can cause tension in a newly blended family, and shares tips for making the transition a smooth one.

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